Echo Explores Pegging

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Hey Guys, this new post on pegging has been a pleasure to write (if a little distracting at times). I used to be terrified by the idea of trying to fuck my boyfriend in the ass but now its my favorite bedroom pastime, you know, other than sleeping and binge watching Netflix box-sets. Since I have heard a lot of really odd myths surrounding pegging I thought I would use this post as a way to answer the many questions I’ve seen people ask. Enjoy!

WHAT IS PEGGING?

“Pegging is a sexual practice in which a woman performs anal sex on a man by penetrating the man’s anus with a strap-on dildo.” – Our dear Friend Wikipedia

 

DOES IT MEAN HE’S SECRETLY GAY?

The short and simple (common sense) answer is…

**drumroll please**

…No.

I feel quite strongly on the subject of ‘branding’ all anal acts as ‘gay’. A sexual act is not indicative of sexuality. Sexuality is about WHO you choose to carry those acts out with, it’s about the types of people YOU are attracted too. If you are a straight man and you’re having sex (in any form) with a woman why would you worry that what you’re doing means you’re actually gay or might somehow *cue eye roll* make you gay?

The stigma that causes people to shy away from things that are perceived as ‘gay’ makes me sad, especially as I’m not heterosexual myself. I get that there are some social pressures out there that make it harder for men to engage in anal-related acts and I feel for the people who struggle with that. Quite frankly though if you’re actually too homophobic to engage in anything that the “homosexuals do” then fine, we’ll be over here having fun while you sit in the corner stewing in your prejudices.

 

WHY PEG WHEN YOU COULD JUST HAVE SEX?

Uhm its fun? Honestly as a female (loosely speaking) I did wonder exactly what was in it for me. Mentally it ticked a lot of my boxes, Taboo check, Revolves around his bum check, puts me in charge check, turns us both on check. But what was it PHYSICALLY going to do for me? Would I get any pleasure at all when in theory he was the only one being penetrated and nobody was paying my clit attention? Well… I needn’t have worried. I’ve felt more pleasure pegging my boyfriend than I’ve experienced in all of my masturbation efforts put together, no-word-of-a-lie.

Pegging is a great way to mix things up in the bedroom; the role reversal, the general mind fuck of “OMG I’m fucking him like I’ve got a dick.” or “OMG she’s doing me like I do her.” is exciting and often overwhelming.

And just a little reminder, allowing yourself to be pegged will NOT make you less of a ‘man’. I’m interested in all genders but what I love about men and specifically my boyfriend is his bravery, confidence and open-mindedness, when that transfers to what we do in the bedroom – when he lets me take the reins, trusts me, is eager to explore – I love him for it, and am 100% turned on by him.

 

WILL PEGGING EVER BE MAINSTREAM?

I think pegging is already becoming more popular, it even featured (although briefly) in the new Deadpool movie. WOOOO, we love you RYAN REYNOLDS! But we’ve got a long way to go before it’s a widely accepted practice. Two years ago I probably would have feinted at the mention of it so there’s hope for the rest of the world yet!

I’d love for the stigma surrounding pegging to just up and disappear, I hate that C feels what we do in the bedroom needs to stay a secret but I understand his concerns too. For the time being we don’t talk to our friends about what we get up to between the sheets when it comes to strap-on’s and to be honest knowing that what we’re doing is taboo actually adds a sizzling layer of nervous excitement to our fun.

 

HELP, HOW DO I GET MY GF TO PEG ME?

Simple ask her.

Okay I get that it’s not always really THAT simple, do you already practice other forms of anal? If not that’s a good place to start.

Have conversations, be open, talk about exploring, encourage without pressure. Make things fun and light hearted, join sex forums like the one on Lovehoney – it was there that I first sparked an interest in pegging. Ask her if there are things that she wants to try, and be open to trying them. Get to a point where exploration is a ‘normal’ part of your relationship.

Once you’ve established if there’s an interest in anal, (or if your already exploring that) then progress things, show her how much you enjoy anal, use dildos, talk about how hot it is when she uses them on you, from there pegging isn’t a huge leap to make.

 

WHERE DO WE START?

TALK. And when you’re done doing that, talk some more.

Don’t run before you can walk, some level of anal experience is definitely required before you start pegging. Played with the backdoor but never had a dildo inside you? Get one, try it on your own, it’s very different from anal beads or a butt plug. Even large plugs usually have very tapered necks that allow your sphincter to close a bit, a dildo doesn’t allow for that, it keeps you open, and it can be a stretch-too-far if you’re not prepared for it.

Play with the dildos you plan to use for pegging, on your own and together. Then when the time comes, get a harness, strap in, and remember you don’t have to go in all guns blazing the first time. Go easy, go slow, and talk some more.

 

WHICH DILDO?

My personal recommendation is to go for something a bit smaller than what you’re used to using anally, otherwise pegging can quickly become too overwhelming. A lot of ‘pegging’ dildos are slim, fairly solid with little to no texture. That might be fine to start with, but don’t feel limited to ‘pegging dildos’, any flared base toy you like that fits in a harness will be fine.

Flexibility is your friend. C’s favourite dildo to be pegged with is the Helio, its super squishy dual density makes the experience far more comfortable for him. ‘Traditional’ pegging dildos are often narrow and very inflexible, whilst this makes inserting it easier, when it comes to fucking Narrow + Inflexible = Poking (not always the most pleasant sensation).

You could also consider a double-ended dildo, one that’s ‘worn’ by the giver and allows them to peg you with something that feels like an extension of themselves.  My favourite dildo to peg C with is the Fun Factory Share. Its internal bulb attached to the shaft allows me to feel every thrust in a much deeper more awesome way.

 

WILL IT BE MESSY?

Maybe. I don’t know what you had for dinner today or how long ago you pooped, but anal mess happens sometimes. You can try douching half an hour beforehand to clean yourself out but I don’t recommend douching as a regular thing. Mostly just be prepared for that outcome. We used to throw a towel down before we played but now we own the liberator throe so that’s our failsafe to prevent poop-splattering the bed sheets. If it happens please be an adult about things, you are after-all playing with an area that’s designed to remove poop from the body, so being surprised when said poop makes an appearance is a little naive.

 

WILL IT BE DIFFICULT?

At first yep, I guess it’s a lot like having sex for the first time, how much is too much? Which positions work best? And wow is thrusting really this much effort? At least these were my thoughts when I first fucked C in the ass. I found lining myself up with his hole kinda difficult in a lot of positions since I’m a lot shorter than him. Spooning works well. Generally though if I can get him low enough doggy style is the easiest for me.

 

DO YOU HAVE TO BE DOMINANT TO PEG SOMEONE?

Only if you want to. I am dominant in the bedroom and I do use pegging to dominate C sometimes but it doesn’t have to be that way, our first pegging session was gentle and loving, we both approached it with the wide eyed innocence you’d expect from virgins. Pegging doesn’t have to be ‘kinky’ in any sense other than it’s a bit taboo, you can have the kind of sleepy-spoon-sex you have when you first wake up or that passionate need-to-be-closer, eager-to-cum sex that comes naturally to me after a few drinks. You can even wear a strap-on as a submissive if you want, with your dominate instructing you on how best to fuck him. The possibilities are endless. 😉

 

IS IT OKAY TO NOT WANT TO PEG/BE PEGGED?

Yes of course, if a sexual act/practice/position just isn’t your cup of tea, put that cup down, pour the metaphorical Earl Grey down the drain! Don’t sit there and sip away at something you didn’t fancy simply for the sake of trying something new.

 

OMG WHY HAVENT WE BEEN DOING THIS ALL ALONG?

I don’t know, I ask myself the same question all the time.

4 thoughts on “Echo Explores Pegging

  1. dizzy

    Thanks for this post. I once had it in my head that I’d like to try pegging with dizzyguy. Even had Tantus send me a harness for review. Once I had the harness in my hands it all became too real and I chickened out. I’m not sure why. I guess I’m just worried about not doing it right or… well. I still think that maybe someday I’ll get brave and try it.

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    1. Echo Post author

      No problemo 🙂 Honestly pegging has been a huge learning curve for me, but despite not really having any clue how to thrust rhythmically (they make it look so easy!) our first ever try was still completely overwhelmingly great. My biggest struggle is actually slowing down and not completely blowing his brains out. Mentally for him, he almost needs a bit of ‘aftercare’ because its so physically and mentally overwhelming.
      I was terrified to start with that I wouldn’t be able to do it, but after a few go’s its as natural to us as having sex the ‘conventional’ way around! I think just like anything sexual you aren’t gunna knock it out of the park on the first try. 🙂

      Hope you both enjoy it if you ever do decide to take the plunge <3

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  2. Insert Trans Here

    I’m a woman and my partner (who is also a woman) uses a strap on to fuck me sometimes. We both call it pegging, so maybe the definition should be widened, unless there is a different term for this.

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  3. Corny

    Wow, thanks for this. I hope my GF wants to peg sometime in the future, I need to have the guts to start talking about it!

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